Tea and Theology



Judge or forgive?

#376 To be #inquisitive or too keen is something which can be perceived as negative when meeting people for the first time. It’s often not socially acceptable to ask strangers lots of questions about themselves…so how do we cross the boundary from strangers to #friendship? How do we cultivate good relationships with others? How do we discern that it is alright to share a little more of yourself with this person? What happens when we get this wrong…are we #forgiving of other people’s faux pas or #judgemental? 

Don’t judge a book by it’s cover…

#349 #cosyclub in Derby – I had no idea this was here, and it stretches for miles!!! It didn’t look big from downstairs and I wasn’t sure what it would be like, but it’s lovely. The food was also really good. #dontjudgeabookbyitscover Why do I need reminding of this crucial childhood lesson so often?!

#214 The #wheelbarrow … Such a random item! At first sight it looks like it will be of no use, then you realise that it can actually carry quite a bit and is very useful! How often do we judge something on looks alone? How often do we discount something on our own preconceived ideas? (at Cuddesdon)

#119 If you tried to #walkinmyshoes what would you make of my life? Would you make different decisions than me? Would you be able to understand how my experiences have shaped me and my approach to all life throws at me today? Would my shoes take you where they take me? Immediate responses to these questions may well be that of course another person would make different decisions, and that from my shoes alone, they would not gain an understanding of what makes me tick, and therefore they would head off in a different direction…as themselves in someone else’s shoes! So if we cannot get to the bottom of how someone has come to be in the situation they now find themselves, why do we #judge them? When others find themselves in different situations to ours, why do we #envy them? Why do we allow #jealousy into our hearts, or insist on comparing ourselves and our lives to others? We are all #fearfullyandwonderfullymade and we are all unique. Let us celebrate who we are and what we have rather than lust after what others have. How could we better spend our energies within a society where there is great need? #psalm139 (at Ripon College Cuddesdon)

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